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Friday, September 27, 2013

Marriage + Intimacy

Marriage by Leland Francisco {via}

As of late, my husband and I have been making an effort to be more intimate.  I'm referring to being connected with each other on a deeper level in every way (i.e. emotionally, spiritually and of course, physically).

Since having Madison our focus has mainly been on her, especially since she's our first.  Children require a great deal of our time when they are first born and you really can't help but make them your focus. But now that we've established routines, gotten an understanding of what this parenting things is about and Maddie is learning and growing, we recognize that it’s time to put some focus back into our marriage.

I believe one of the best things you can do for your child(ren) is be their model of a good, lasting marriage. But that takes work…so much work!

So, one of the things my husband and I always try to be mindful of is the fact that we are husband and wife not lifelong roommates simply going through the motions of day to day life.  It's so easy to get into that routine so we've been focusing on doing more of the following:
  • Flirting
  • Greeting each other upon arrival
  • Touching each other in some way
  • Sending sweet texts daily
  • Holding hands
  • Kissing
  • Embracing/holding each other
  • Having fun discussions/debates with each other
  • Challenging each other to grow/improve in certain areas
  • Reading the Bible together
  • Playing games together
  • Creating a couples bucket list (coming to the blog soon)
It's been said that you should never stop dating your spouse, so we've been trying to mimic the interaction we had when we first started dating. Starting next month I'm hoping to get back to going out on a date at least once per month and really sticking to putting Maddie to bed early on Friday so we can resume our in-house date nights! 

I'm giddy just thinking about more alone time with him!!!

What are some things you're doing to keep your relationship alive?!?

P.S.  Happy Birthday to one of my best friends (IRL), Mionna, over at Just Mi!!!




  1. I love this, Nicole :) My husband and I call or e-mail each other through out the day and try (try being the operative word) every night to be done with chores/putting the kids to bed by 8:00 so we can spend time with each other. That doesn't happen every night, but it's always our goal! We are affectionate in front of the kids, because I think it's important for kids to see a healthy, loving relationship. Plus, it's funny when they're grossed out by kissing :P

  2. I love reading this! Even as we're in the beginning newlywed phase, I'm trying to still be aware and available and not take for granted the kisses and touches and greetings--the moments together.

  3. Very good advice. I think one of the most important things we do for our children is show them how to love by loving our spouses.

  4. My husband and I were just discussing last night that we needed to do some things like you mentioned above. I love the idea of a couple's bucket list, I think I'll share this with him this evening. Thanks so much for sharing and can't wait for next month to hear all about yours:)

  5. This is a great post! Couples must continue to be reminded of the importance of staying's truly vital to the family unit. Because, when spouses are not connected; it spills over onto the children, into the workplace and into ministry (if applicable). I'm sure all marriaged ladies will appreciate this, thanks for sharing!

  6. I really like the idea of a couples bucket list! With two kids in three years, our focus has definitely been on them. I can't wait to see what you come up with!

  7. Intimacy is a great thing and it's awesome that you two are working on being more intimate. It's so easy to get caught in a rut of being around each other like you're roomies. At least both parties recognize the importance of this and are willing to work towards keeping each other happy! Go you two!!


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