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Wednesday, April 10, 2013

A potential drawback to keeping a child at home...

I often struggle with whether or not I'm giving Maddie what she needs on an educational level.  I worry about milestones and whether she's reaching them when she should? I'm not trained in child development, and I understand that the majority of parents aren't, but I often wonder if she's getting what she needs, as much as she needs, when she needs it.

That is one of the only potential drawbacks that I worry about in relation to having her at home.  At the same time, I also get that I'm probably just being hard on myself since I tend to set pretty high expectations for everything!

I can't imagine that I'm the only stay at home parent who thinks about this.  Sometimes I think that I'm suppose to occupy her mind and ensure that I'm teaching her something at every waking hour, then quickly realize that that wouldn't be realistic and quite exhausting for the both of us.

I try to remember that most children do their learning some time between the hours of 8-5pm when they are in daycare and even that time isn't spent constantly filling them with information.  So I try to structure our day somewhat the same by scheduling in some learning time but spend the majority of our day just being there for her, loving, laughing and having fun (and I'm sure she's constantly learning things at this time too).

Our goal at this point is for me to stay at home for another year (until she turns two), then start to transition her to a daycare facility (at least part-time).  Not just for the learning aspect but for the social aspect as well (although her play dates do help with this).  Plus, she just needs time away from me and I away from her since our her separation anxiety is getting out of hand!

I've found that being a parent can be hard, real hard! There are SO many things to consider and there are worries, concerns and drawbacks in any situation no matter how your life is structured (i.e. sahm, wahm, full-time, etc.).  It's important for me to recognize that what works for someone else may not work for us and even what works for us tends to change over time as we learn and grow.  I also constantly have to remind myself that there is no rule book for parenting!

As long as we're giving it our all and doing the very best we can each and every day, our child(ren) should turn out just fine!  At least that's what I'm telling myself!!!  Do you feel there are any potential drawbacks with the path you and your family have chosen?!?


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